The Child Who is Easiest to Raise
The child who is easiest to raise, who remembers commands and performs best, becomes conditioned and rewarded by becoming the perfect people pleaser.
Because she is judged by how she performs, not who she is, she learns to value herself in measurements and extends her worth to include her size, age, proportions, hair, hips, and breasts. By the time she reaches the bottom of her dignity, she has whittled and shrunk her value, and danced to the tune of others’ whims and desires. Long ago, she forgot her soul song while humming to the expectations of societal conditioning. As a child, she earned a seat at the family table for her efforts to remain small and quiet. As a woman, she has been conditioned to accept small transactions as a sign of loyalty and love, considering them enough.
She overgives, performing for and chasing love. And deep inside, the child whose needs were ignored holds her breath. Her nervous system has long since become stuck in dysregulation. Her cortisol and adrenaline levels perpetually increase, and she goes numb inside.
One day, she will befriend the neglected child within and end the search for the disapproving parent inside a lover. Until then, she continues to reinforce the lie she was fed, starving the divine within, seeking small pleasures to quiet the growing drumbeat of discontent.
When her vision clears and she sees the story with her name on it can change, and until she recognizes the emerging version of herself, the old chapters keep returning in a never-ending rerun — same guy, different face. Old versions of her are a stubborn lot. Until she remembers her sacredness, the past remains her anchor and the prison she keeps returning to. Her loyalty to abandoning herself is the locked door she stays behind. Until.
The day she remembers who she is, her worth becomes immeasurable. Her fortitude becomes unbreakable. . Today, as her light shines, lost souls masquerading as lovers scramble for a dark place to hide. She finds herself at the precipice of the emergent divine. When she finally steps into her power, the rippling shift creates a wrinkle in time. This is the moment they feared. She grows in presence. Her wisdom shapes generations, and finally, she has a seat at the head of the sacred table of emergence. She grows in presence, influencing the cosmos.
She stands now at the threshold of her own becoming — not tentative, not hoping — she steps fully into her power, the world around her shifts. Not with drama, but with consequence. With clarity sharp enough to cut. With a presence so undeniable, it rearranges every room she enters.
She grows stronger. Louder. Steadier. The drumbeat inside her heart vibrates into the earth. Her wisdom becomes a force, not a whisper. And at last, she sits — not at the edge of someone else’s table, waiting to be chosen — but at the head of her own. A table she built. A seat she forged. A place no one will ever again ask her to shrink to keep.
Diane Dennis is an RN, coach, author of ‘An Evolutionary Leap-From Breakup to Breakthrough’. Join her at www.DianeRN.com to continue the process of emergence into one’s sacred purpose through workshops, articles, videos and support. A life learner Diane endeavors to teach the wisdom she learns to elevate consciousness and the human condition.
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